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From the Holiday 2012 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
While grieving the loss of your loved one, did your faith or set of beliefs support you? Or, did you find that your beliefs could not adequately explain for you how such things are possible, leading you to explore how you understand the world?
From the Holiday 2011 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
The holidays can be a particularly difficult time for someone grieving the loss of a loved one. Is there anything someone could do for you that would help? Has someone done something for you in the past that you found particularly helpful?
Please share with us things that friends and family members have done (or can do) for you to help you get through the holidays.
From the next issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Often the loss of our loved one is strongly associated with a particular place. It could be a room in our home, a location on the road, a hospital, or another location where a significant event related to that person’s death occurred. Please share with us if there is such a place for you, and if so, how you handle the reactions that are associated with it.
From the next issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Often the loss of our loved one is strongly associated with a particular place. It could be a room in our home, a location on the road, a hospital, or another location where a significant event in their death occurred. Please share with us if there is such a place for you, and if so, how you handle the feelings that are associated with it.
From the Holiday 2010 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
You may find, as many families do, that the holidays are when your feelings of grief and loss are the strongest. To cope with this, it can be comforting to find a way to include honoring your loved one's memory in your holiday plans. It could be an ornament with a special significance, a candle that you light each night, a donation made in their name, or any other object, act, or ritual. If you plan to honor your loved one this holiday season, please share with us up to three ways that you will do so.
From the Spring 2010 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Many grievers gain comfort by surrounding themselves with special things that remind them of their loved one. It could be an object, such as something they owned, or a souvenir bought together during a vacation. It could be something sensory such a piece of clothing that still has their scent, or a song that had a special meaning-- maybe even a special food that you enjoyed together. When your loved one died, what did you find that reminded you of them? What was it about that particular item that comforted you the most? How did you use the item, did you wear it, carry it with you, leave it in a special place, or use it in some other way?
From the Winter 2010 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Some donor families honor their grief by reaching out to others. From creating non-profits to changing legislation, they’re ordinary people like us, trying to make good come from something tragic. Do you have an inspiring story to share?
From the Fall/Holiday 2009 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
For those of us who’ve lost a loved one, holidays can be exhausting. Amidst the hustle and bustle of the season, it’s important to give ourselves “permission” to do what’s necessary to help us cope. What helps you get through the holidays?
From the Summer 2009 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Do you have a special "memorial space" at home where you honor the memory of your loved one? Big or small, indoors or outdoors, other donor families would like to hear what you do... it could help spark ideas of our own!
From the Spring 2009 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
A bowl of popcorn, a cozy chair, and you’re all set for a movie night at home. Except for one thing... finding a "safe" movie. We're making a list of DFF-rated movies (Donor Family Friendly). Gentle, charming, and funny movies that can provide heavy hearts with a welcome escape. If you have a favorite movie to add, please let us know!
From the Winter 2009 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Even though they love us, often our friends and neighbors can't give us the support that we find among other donor family members. At functions like Donor Recognition Ceremonies, the U.S. Transplant Games or local events, we get a chance to meet people with stories similar to ours. If you have attended a donor family event, what was the event, and what did you get out of it that you don't get in your everyday life? How did you feel at that event? Did you experience a letdown when the event was over? If so, how did you cope?
From the Fall/Holiday 2008 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
From the Summer 2008 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
What are constructive ways yoU have learned to deal With yoUr anger? How have you dealt with the anger shown by those close to you? (Although it is their anger, it can also ripple into your own life.)
From the Spring 2008 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
The pain of losing a loved one can be made worse if family, friends or co-workers begin to treat you differently. Many people aren’t sure how to act around someone who is grieving and may be uncomfortable.
Did you notice any changes in the behavior of people you know, and, if so, did you try to help them understand how you wanted to be treated?
Did anyone respond in ways that were particularly helpful or compassionate? What did you want people to do or say?
From the Winter 2008 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Both tears and laughter are healing. Are there happy memories of your loved one that make you smile? Do you have any funny stories you like to share? When you're feeling especially blue, what cheers you up?
From the Fall/Holiday 2007 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Some people say that with time comes healing. Have you found this to be true? As time marches on and a new year approaches, what "gift" of hope can you share with others who are newly grieving? Have your celebrations or your approach to the holidays changed over time?
From the Summer 2007 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Suicide survivors (families and friends affected by a suicide death) often experience a wide range of mixed emotions following the death. Many other people are unsure of how to discuss a suicide death with a survivor. If you have been affected by a suicide, what has helped you cope with this difficult loss in your life? In what ways are you struggling? Have you used a support group and if so, was it beneficial? What are examples of the more supportive and helpful observations you received from others following the death of your loved one? Is there anything you want to say to other families who are going through this experience?
From the Spring 2007 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
After the death of a loved one, the world often seems a changed place. Some people
find comfort in their spiritual or religious beliefs. Some people may find themselves questioning their beliefs or seeking new answers, and others may begin to explore their spirituality for the first time.
Did your experience with death and loss lead you to question your religious or spiritual beliefs? Is your relationship with God (or religion, spirit, spirituality) different from before? Have you become more or less spiritual or religious than you were before? Have your beliefs changed in any way?
From the Winter 2007 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
When your family was asked about donation, was there anything that helped make the process more comfortable for you? Do you wish that anything had been handled differently? Do you have any suggestions for improving the process for future families- either the consent process itself, or the medical/social history questions?
From the Fall/Holiday 2006 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve:
Does your family have any special rituals to honor your loved one during the holidays? Do you do anything special to remember their life and gifts? Have you changed any old family rituals, or added new ones?
From the Summer 2006 issue of For Those Who Give and Grieve: